Reasons to Ditch your Facebook Account Right Now!
At the beginning of the month I decided to quit Facebook. The world’s largest social media platform was an addiction and taking up way too much of my time. I’m on a mission to simplify my life, finding joy, peace and tranquillity, freeing up time for family, hobbies and meeting real friends in real life. A couple of weeks ago I decided I can no longer endure Facebook, it is not for me, here I explain why.
1. Less is more
Recently I have slowed down, I’m 51 and have accomplished a lot with the first part of my journey, from having a wonderful family and home life, to various career paths. I’ve decided to slow down, meditate, read, exercise, see ‘real’ friends and reconnect with nature and enjoy my crafting & hobbies. By ditching Facebook, I have felt liberated. I want a higher quality of life; I think I have found it by limiting the (things) that compete with me and my attention, so I can spend more time on the (things) I care about most.
2. Most of my Facebook friends aren’t (actually friends)
Don’t get me wrong they are not enemies but people I hardly see or connect with on a day to day basis, for most it was just a way to contact with each other because of different regions of the country, or because some didn’t have an email address or telephone number, simply because we were not actual friends. A wonderful article I came across sums up being on Facebook for me, The Futility of Comparing Yourself to Others, by Leo Babauta, ‘One of the biggest reasons we’re not content with ourselves and our lives is that we compare ourselves to other people.’
3. Ask yourself the question, are they ‘real’ friends?
How many of your contacts actually contact you and ask to see you? In my experience not many. My real friends call me and reciprocate. We meet for a coffee or for a walk-in nature or plan an activity together. Real friends make no judgement on your opinions but on Facebook things can get very heated and harsh words are sometimes said. It is so much nicer having these debates in person. I don’t believe we should ever have an argument over Facebook. As humans we respond very differently to what people write, to what people say to us in person. I believe the best way we can all communicate and work out our differences, or arrive at a compromise is to talk to one another in person whether that be over dinner or out walking, or meeting places. Facebook barely resembles real life, to me it’s a façade and Facebook was sucking the life out of me so I decided to quit!
4. Do I really need a Facebook account to build my business?
I constantly get told, I need Facebook to build my business, I don’t agree. There are many ways to get creative and connect with people, some I have listed here:
- Try using meetup.com
- Post Videos, updates and engage with likeminded people on Instagram. I find it a much friendlier platform.
- Start creating videos and add these to your website, YouTube, Instagram & Twitter if you enjoy some social media
- Get creative and share ideas on Pinterest
- Create a local business meetup group
- Attend events to promote your business
- Use Flyers and posters around your local village, as well as advertise in local magazines
- Give everyone you meet your business card. You never know they may want your services or know of someone that does
- Start a blog
- Start a loyalty reward card scheme
- Give out freebies with your logo on
- Create a free resource for your industry
5. Ditching Facebook will give you more Zen
By ditching Facebook you’ll find you have more time to do what you truly love, if you don’t have any hobbies or interests why not start some? What did you like to do as a child? If it was riding your bike, then start riding a bike. I personally loved walking my dogs until I lost both my girls last year, so until I get another pooch, I’ve taken up running. I started off slowly and it was painful at first but now I can easily run for longer, you can too! I also love to breath in the fresh air and get outside in nature in all seasons. You meet people and see so much wildlife and plants, it’s so good for the soul!
Start your day off well
- When your day begins don’t reach for your phone to check Facebook or any social media for that matter. Plant the seed of positivity as soon as you wake up. Like an animal, stretch and take a few deep breaths in before rising. If you can incorporate some Yoga or fitness or go for a walk before breakfast, do. Thoughts planted in the morning will continue to grow throughout the day.
- Have a jar you can fill with notelets to drop into, with the day’s life lessons
- Write a journal of gratitude
- Research shows people who are thankful are also happy and positive. Notice how lucky you are and your optimism and satisfaction with life will grow.
- Remember to write in your journal every day and spend a few moments letting the realization you are blessed just to be alive.
- Practice 15 – 30 minutes of mindfulness. 30 Minutes is quite hard for people so start off with 10. Just sit and be mindful of how your body feels, what does it tell you? Create a peaceful place in your home or garden, make it a beautiful place to sit for you meditation. You could also make an altar with incense candles & crystals with soothing music in the background.
- Eat seasonal whole foods and be mindful whilst eating, sense the texture and taste of the foods you eat and feel how they nourish you.
- Spend more time listening to your inner voice.
- Consume good energy vibrations with people you love. If they warm you up like a radiator spend
time with them but if they are a drain and wear you down, spend less time with these people.
Positivity brings good vibrations!
- Learn to forgive
Ditching Facebook will give you more freedom, giving you enthusiasm and energy to start something new. It will help you connect with real life and spend more time on things you really enjoy, including human contact. It will help you drop comparisons and help you focus on your own life and love your journey more.